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Is Your Marriage in Crisis?

Are you at the end of your rope? Are you done hoping your spouse will change or that things will get better? Does it feel like divorce is the only option?

An Intensive Approach to Counseling

Statistics indicate that once-a-week marriage counseling often ends with a disappointing list of communication tools and little resolution of the real problems. This is like prescribing aspirin to a patient who needs heart surgery. If you, like so many others, have tried marriage counseling before that did not result in real change, it’s time to try something different. Our 3-Day Marriage Intensive is exactly that – an intensive, life-changing experience that will transform how you relate to each other and bring about real healing, not just temporary bandage solutions.

The decision to invest in your marriage is one of the most important decisions you can make that will impact the rest of your life. Watch the video to learn how a Marriage Intensive can bring clarity and direction you are so desperate for, and set your marriage on a new path.

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What to Expect During Your Marriage Intensive

Our counselors will facilitate a safe environment for you to be able to share openly about your feelings and needs without the criticism and judgement that in the past has silenced you and caused you to shut down. We will help open your eyes to understand what’s really happening in your relationship and see into your spouse’s heart.

You can expect to feel challenged, but in good ways that cause you to evaluate what you do and why. We will help you break the cycle of conflict and distrust and learn to work collaboratively as a couple to build something new.

3-Day Package

$3,770 - $5,200

  • One Pre-Intensive session via phone or video
  • 3 Days (24 therapy hours) of Intensive Couple’s Counseling
  • One Post-Intensive follow up session via phone or video
  • Crisis email counseling
  • Pricing and location based on therapist choice

3-Day Package w/ 2 Therapists

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  • One Pre-Intensive session via phone or video
  • 3 Days (24 therapy hours) of Intensive Couple’s Counseling
  • One Post-Intensive follow up session via phone or video
  • Crisis email counseling
  • Pricing and location based on therapist choice

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"Your therapy was life changing."

Patty & Steve

Your therapy was life changing. We are actually living a married life that we have never experienced before. It is better than it has ever been. I think the biggest life changers were working to help each other be safe, and to nurture each other instead of hurting each other. I really have so much gratitude for your help. I was at the end of my rope, and you really helped me.

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"I think of her as The Relationship Whisperer."


My wife and I have been married for 44 years and have counseled with many therapists over much of that time. None of them devoted the compassion and skillset that we experienced with Jill. It is undeniable that Jill truly cares about me, my needs, and my marriage. I think of her as The Relationship Whisperer. She knows not only what to say, but how and when to say it. Her guidance is delivered in such a way that it hits to the core of damaging thoughts and behaviors while avoiding negative reaction from the hearer. Jill directs a person to discern, reveal and correct false thinking.

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"My wife and I are experiencing a transformative shift..."


My wife and I are experiencing a rewardingly transformative shift in our communication, relationship, and mutual love and respect. We have developed awareness of each other that has been lacking all of these years. We are now able to recognize and correct the destructive patterns that we have unwittingly allowed to impede our marriage. Thanks to the Marriage Recovery Center we are thriving!

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"It has always been difficult to get my husband to see a counselor."

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It has always been difficult to get my husband to see a counselor. Jill at the Marriage Recovery Center is the first one he has connected with. He actually listens to her and tries to put her advice into practice. Her wisdom, knowledge and delivery demands respect. I am confident God has placed her in our lives for this time.

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"Path of Renewal saved our marriage."


The Path of Renewal Marriage Intensive saved our marriage. And while my husband and I still have far to go in our healing journey, the communication tools we learned have served us greatly as we work together to heal from layers and years of hurt and trauma. So grateful for the wisdom, insight and help we’ve received from the Marriage Recovery Center.

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"I showed up to counseling very angry"


I showed up to counseling very angry as might be expected. I showed up thinking I was right, and wanting my wife to stop what she was doing. I left broken for how I have treated my wife once the reality of what I have been doing to her became real to me. I left with a desire to heal my marriage and a commitment to rebuild what I destroyed.

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"Dr Hawkins is the wizard of relationships!"


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" The Marriage Recovery Center gave me the clarity I was looking for."


God does not always answer prayers in the way we hope, but He uses people to bring clarity in the places we need. The Marriage Recovery Center gave me the clarity I was looking for. I am thankful for Sharmen and the Marriage Recovery Center for providing a safe space to hear God's voice.

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"I'm learning to love myself like I never knew how."


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" I went into counseling with much uncertainty..."


I went into the marriage counseling with much uncertainty since we previously hadn't been able to dig deep into issues without running into road blocks or stumbling. The V communication tool really helped us to break down unhealthy elements of our history together in a way that has allowed healing.

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" I did not feel safe communicating with my spouse."


After 15 months of separation, I did not feel safe communicating with my spouse. The Marriage Recovery gave us the tools we have prayed for to heal wounds and lift darkness. We are thankful for their experience and wisdom!

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"Dr. Hawkins showed great care and concern for my well-being"


Dr. Hawkins showed great care and concern for my well-being, and at the same time 'tells it like it is,' which isn't always comfortable, but was done in my best interest in moving forward, toward me living with integrity and authenticity. He has the heart necessary for seeing marriages survive and thrive.

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"I am so glad I found the Marriage Recovery Center"


I am so glad I found the Marriage Recovery Center since I really do believe our marriage has a chance thanks to your counseling. My only regret is that I hadn’t found you sooner, but God has his ways and I suppose we were not ready up until now.

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"I highly recommend the Marriage Recovery Center."


I previously suffered with anxiety, fear of disapproval and an inability to set personal boundaries. My fear was internal and no one knew I suffered with it. By the end of the therapy, I instinctively and decisively knew what my boundaries and convictions were. I no longer live with fear and anxiety. I become more and more empowered every day. I am still a "nice" person, but I am strong, firm, assertive, confident and guilt-free. I highly recommend the Marriage Recovery Center. It is the best thing I've ever done for myself. It impacts every personal interaction and continues to enhance my life every day.

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"Thank you for being our miracle.”

Deanne and Gene

Thank you for being "our miracle.” One of the reasons we selected you to help us heal our relationship is that you offered and believed in hope. We left our Marriage Intensive feeling more connected, prepared and hopeful as we have ever been. We see the road ahead and truly want to travel it together. There was no road without your help. We are forever grateful.

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"My husband's heart changed through this intervention"


I am so very grateful for your care and expertise in the intervention you guided. It was completely life-transforming! My husband’s heart changed through this intervention and with that his behavior changed - real change, not fake, not forced. He has stayed connected, truly connected. This is priceless - our marriage, our partnership, our life ——and we have you to thank for it!

Do you need hope and healingfor your marriage?

At the Marriage Recovery Center, we are passionate about helping couples discover hope and healing for their relationships. Whether you are in a toxic, destructive marriage or simply longing for deeper connection with your spouse, our counselors will help you gain the tools you need to experience a healthy and fulfilling marriage.

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What percentage of marriages survive after counseling? ›

The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists reports an overall success rate of 98%.

What type of therapist is best for marriage counseling? ›

Licensed clinical social workers (LCSWs) or Licensed Professional Counselors (LPCS) are also typically not qualified to provide couples therapy. Only marriage and family therapists have specialized education, training and experience in helping couples.

For what reason is marriage counseling not successful? ›

Many couples therapies fail because the partners continue to experience each other as adversaries. Consequently, they remain locked in bitter struggles for dominance and persistently discredit each other's point of view and emotional reactions.

Does marriage counseling work with a narcissist? ›

Couples therapy helps narcissism much better than individual therapy — because the partner is involved in the effort. When the therapist works with the two of you, there is a much better chance of success — because there is so much more leverage.

What not to say in marriage counseling? ›

3 things you should never tell your marriage counselor
  • "Don't tell my husband/wife this, but ..." Sorry, as marriage counselors we're not supposed to take sides and we can't keep important secrets from your partner. ...
  • 2. " No, I think you're wrong" ...
  • 3. " That's it; I want a divorce"
Feb 1, 2016

Will a therapist ever recommend divorce? ›

Even in an abusive relationship, a couples therapist will likely not suggest divorce. They will, however, help the victim find separation and seek help. Therapists will do everything they can to keep their clients safe.

Should married couples see the same therapist? ›

It is a clinical decision that each therapist makes on his or her own. There is no hard and fast rule about it. However, seeing each person separately does not necessarily mean that your therapist will keep secrets.

What is the difference between marriage therapy and counseling? ›

Couples therapy is typically pursued when the couple is experiencing problems, big or small, in their relationship and wants to understand the “why.” Marriage counseling, on the other hand, is often attended by newlyweds and sometimes even required of couples before getting married.

Is the Gottman Method worth it? ›

The findings found that the Gottman marriage counseling improved marital relationships by helping couples “develop problem-solving skills. These skills make couples more flexible in their relationships and help them achieve a high degree of emotional stability and a peaceful life”.

What are the signs your marriage is over? ›

7 Signs Your Marriage Is Over, According to Experts
  • Lack of Sexual Intimacy. In every marriage, sexual desire will change over time. ...
  • Frequently Feeling Angry with Your Spouse. ...
  • Dreading Spending Alone-Time Together. ...
  • Lack of Respect. ...
  • Lack of Trust. ...
  • Disliking Your Spouse. ...
  • Visions of the Future Do Not Include Your Spouse.
Dec 7, 2019

What is the most common problem addressed in couples therapy? ›

Most Common Issues in Couples Therapy
  • Infidelity. ...
  • Divorce / Separation. ...
  • Communication. ...
  • Frequent conflict. ...
  • Falling out of love / Growing apart. ...
  • Major life adjustments. ...
  • Financial difficulties. ...
  • Substance abuse.

Can a marriage be saved without counseling? ›

' yes, it can be saved. Both of you have to start working towards repairing a marriage. Counseling helps, but therapies often fail to bring the desired result for most marriages. There are alternate ways to save a marriage without the help of a marriage counselor or therapist.

How a narcissist treats her husband? ›

Narcissistic partners act as if they are always right, that they know better and that their partner is wrong or incompetent. This often leaves the other person in the relationship either angry and trying to defend themselves or identifying with this negative self-image and feeling badly about themselves.

How does a narcissist act in a marriage? ›

A narcissistic husband is usually a very selfish person and will only think about themselves, and not about you or your relationship together. They might expect you to do all the housework, or they may want to have sex with you when they want it, but not when you want it.

How do you prove a narcissistic husband? ›

Common symptoms of a narcissistic personality disorder include:
  1. An exaggerated sense of self-importance.
  2. Sense of entitlement.
  3. Requires excessive, constant admiration.
  4. Exaggerates talents and achievements.
  5. Monopolize conversations.
  6. Looks down on people and belittles them.
  7. Takes advantage of others to get what they want.
Mar 16, 2021

Can counseling fix a toxic relationship? ›

Working through issues with a trusted third party is one of the best ways to fix a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships rarely start out as toxic, and bringing things back to a salvageable place is possible. Both partners will need to show up to marriage counseling, ready to work together.

How long does marriage counseling last? ›

While the specific number of sessions depends entirely on the couple and the approach of their therapist, on average, you can expect to spend anywhere from 12-30 hours, according to the therapists I spoke to.

How do you know when to give up on marriage counseling? ›

5 Signs It's Time To Give Up on Your Marriage or Relationship
  1. You Are Not Equally Committed to Moving Forward. ...
  2. Spending Time Together Feels Awkward and Forced. ...
  3. You've Started Searching For A Different Partner. ...
  4. Abuse of Any Kind. ...
  5. You've Read 15 Articles on When It's Time to Give Up.
Nov 2, 2021

What are the first signs of divorce? ›

6 Warning Signs Your Marriage May Be Headed For Divorce
  • There is an Emotional Distance. ...
  • You Are More Like Roommates Than Spouses. ...
  • There is a Lack of Intimacy. ...
  • Your Spouse is Always Busy. ...
  • There Are Signs Your Spouse is Cheating. ...
  • Everything You Do Seems To Irritate Your Spouse. ...
  • When It Is Time To Consult With A Divorce Lawyer.
Sep 19, 2022

How do I know it's time to divorce? ›

You know it's time to get a divorce when your spouse is neither that partner, nor a friend. Disconnect within a marriage can lead to feelings of loneliness. This loneliness only decays the marriage bond faster. Stay too long, and you'll feel trapped – leading to a messier, more expensive divorce.

How often should married couples go to counseling? ›

It's up to you. Typically people go to marriage counseling either weekly or every other week. When we meet for the first time we'll help you answer the question, "How often should I go to marriage counseling?" Ultimately you should go to marriage counseling as often as you feel you need it.

Can couples therapist tell you to leave your partner? ›

Should a Therapist Advise Divorce? As a general rule, it is considered unethical for mental health professionals to give advice at all. Our job is to help you learn to make those decisions yourself, not to tell you how to make them.

How do I know if my couples therapist is good? ›

Remember you are seeking out a counselor because you are feeling stuck or unhappy in your relationship.
  1. 2: They help each partner take responsibility and provide hope for working harder.
  2. 3: They speak in simple terms, not trying to impress with jargon.
  3. 4: They are relatable but not too personal.
Apr 10, 2019

What is the downside of couples therapy? ›

Cons of Couples Therapy

Therapy is a long-term process, and requires a commitment from each individual for the relationship to work. It is a process that is better done sooner rather than later, so that the healing can happen before damage is too severe. Boundaries may become confusing.

Why does marriage counseling lead to divorce? ›

Some people say marriage counseling “causes” divorce. This isn't typically true, but therapy can expose problems and issues that aren't easily resolved. If the couple refuses to or can't work through their issues, then they may blame the counselor for causing a separation or divorce.

What questions are asked in marriage counseling? ›

Marriage Counseling Questions to Ask Your Spouse
  • What are the issues? ...
  • Are we putting enough effort? ...
  • Are we going through a bad patch? ...
  • How do we feel about our connection? ...
  • What are your concerns about me? ...
  • Do you feel intimacy towards me? ...
  • Do we trust each other's actions? ...
  • Have we made any mistakes?
Sep 17, 2020

What are the Four Horsemen divorce? ›

The Four Horsemen are four communication habits that increase the likelihood of divorce, according to research by psychologist and renowned marriage researcher John Gottman, Ph. D. Those four behaviors are criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt.

What are the Four Horsemen of couples therapy? ›

The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. Being able to identify the Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions is a necessary first step to eliminating them and replacing them with healthy, productive communication patterns.

What is Gottman's golden rule? ›

According to relationship researcher John Gottman, the magic ratio is 5 to 1. What does this mean? This means that for every one negative feeling or interaction between partners, there must be five positive feelings or interactions. Stable and happy couples share more positive feelings and actions than negative ones.

What year do marriages usually end? ›

While there are countless divorce studies with conflicting statistics, the data points to two periods during a marriage when divorces are most common: years 1 – 2 and years 5 – 8. Of those two high-risk periods, there are two years in particular that stand out as the most common years for divorce — years 7 and 8.

What is a toxic marriage like? ›

A toxic marriage is a chronic condition characterized by ongoing unhealthy mental, physical, and emotional issues that are unresolved and fester into even bigger problems. Physical abuse, substance abuse, adultery, desertion, or other major transgressions are obvious signs that a marriage is in trouble.

How do you know if a marriage Cannot be saved? ›

There are so many signs a marriage cannot be saved, and here are some that people shouldn't ignore.
  • There is no physical contact. ...
  • You have lost respect. ...
  • You end up arguing always. ...
  • Lack of compromise. ...
  • Substance abuse is an issue. ...
  • There is an affair going on. ...
  • Finding faults is a way of life. ...
  • Not your go-to anymore.
Aug 9, 2021

What are the five problems of marriage? ›

12 Common Marriage Problems
  • Lack of communication. Poor communication is a common marital issue. ...
  • Lack of intimacy. Sex matters. ...
  • Different life stages. ...
  • Infidelity. ...
  • Jealousy. ...
  • Boredom. ...
  • Disrespecting boundaries. ...
  • Stress.
Oct 3, 2022

How many couples break up after couples therapy? ›

According to some research, approximately a quarter of couples who receive marriage therapy report that their relationship is worse two years after ending therapy, and up to 38 percent of couples who receive marriage therapy get divorced within four years of completing therapy.

Why do people refuse couples counseling? ›

They may worry about being judged or ganged up on by the marriage counselor. They may have had unhelpful experiences with past therapy, often counseling that was not evidence-based, or that was conducted by a “couples counselor” with little training in couples counseling — which is unfortunately common.

How do you fix a struggling marriage? ›

John Gottman.
  1. Complain without blame. ...
  2. Repair conflicts skillfully. ...
  3. Stay focused on the issues at hand. ...
  4. Boost up physical affection. ...
  5. Nurture fondness and admiration. ...
  6. Spend time with your partner on a daily basis. ...
  7. Communicate honestly about key issues in your relationship. ...
  8. Don't allow wounds to fester.

Can a sexless marriage survive? ›

The short answer is that yes, a sexless marriage can survive – but it can come at a cost. If one partner desires sex but the other is uninterested, lack of sex can lead to decreased intimacy and connection, feelings of resentment and even infidelity.

How do you restart a broken marriage? ›

10 ways to reset your marriage
  1. Give your partner grace. ...
  2. Don't assume you know what is going on with your partner. ...
  3. Take time to affirm with your partner. ...
  4. Get to know your partner on a deeper level. ...
  5. Make a list of your disagreements. ...
  6. Work on yourself. ...
  7. Stop criticizing and express concerns effectively.
Mar 5, 2021

What is the divorce rate after couples therapy? ›

According to some research, approximately 38% of couples who have undergone marriage counseling get divorced within four years after completing the therapy sessions.

Do counselors have a high divorce rate? ›

McCoy and Aamodt listed the occupation therapists, all other as having a divorce/separation rate of 24.20%, sociologists as 23.53%, social workers as 23.16%, counselors as 22.49%, miscellaneous social scientists and workers as 19.65%, and psychologists as 19.30%.

What percentage of therapy ends in divorce? ›

According to some research, approximately a quarter of couples who receive marriage therapy report that their relationship is worse two years after ending therapy, and up to 38 percent of couples who receive marriage therapy get divorced within four years of completing therapy.

What percentage of people get better from therapy? ›

About 75 percent of people who enter psychotherapy show some benefit from it. Psychotherapy has been shown to improve emotions and behaviors and to be linked with positive changes in the brain and body.

What type of couple has the highest divorce rate? ›

Married couples between the ages of 20 to 25 are 60% likely to get a divorce. Black women divorce at a higher rate (38.9%) than women of any other race. The military divorce rate is 3% on average. In 2019 alone, 30,608 military marriages ended in divorce.

Is life happier after divorce? ›

The study found that on average unhappily married adults who divorced were no happier than unhappily married adults who stayed married when rated on any of 12 separate measures of psychological well-being. Divorce did not typically reduce symptoms of depression, raise self-esteem, or increase a sense of mastery.

How long is too long for couples therapy? ›

Marriage counseling typically lasts six months or less, and some mental health professionals say that the longer counseling goes on, the less effective it is.


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